I’m Not… But I Am…

One of the hardest things in life is self-reflection. I don’t mean for the big moments. Self-reflection on how you act when someone’s sick, or someone’s dying is commonplace. Those are moments out of time, the ones life asks that you be a better you so that the moment can be supported and carried through. I’m talking about about the small moments when you feel absolutely justified in how you act, or the moments when life asks for a quick reaction and how you react won’t stay long in your memory or others. Somehow, when we think of ourselves, we…

Continue reading

Toxic Employees

There’s a new study from Harvard Business Schools that apparently says that hiring superstars who are toxic employees is more detrimental to your workplace than hiring regular folks who aren’t toxic. I actually experienced this first hand. I used to work for a small firm who had about 7-10 employees at any given time. One of the employees, “G” was a friend of the owner’s. A free spirit, G was lots of fun. He was also very quick at his job. Because he could see the big picture, he saw how the industry we were in at the time, was a…

Continue reading

A Kinder, Gentler Me

I used to be an asshole. Well, to be honest, I still am sometimes but I’ve curbed my assholery down to a minimum. Why? Because living with someone whose empathy surpasses mine makes it hard. I am a very empathetic person. The thing is, because of my family background, I was very content to keep that empathy restricted to folks I knew or met. Strangers? Why you’re not part of my tribe. Before I met my wife, I used to stack all the phonecalls I had to make to utilities onto a PMS day. Then already irritated, I’d unleash fumes of wrath…

Continue reading

Piracy in More Ways Than One

Last night, I found two more sites featuring free downloads of my book, “A Slice of Quietude.” My editor did some digging around and found that even though these two sites claim that they put up my book in Dec. 2014 and April 2015 (I guess to fight DCMA takedown notices in that they can go “How can I have stolen this when I put it up before the book was published?”), the sites were created a few days ago. Now the only way to make money off of free downloads is to attach malicious software along with them so…

Continue reading

Sometimes, a Cover-Up is the Best Thing

This video comes from Brazil where even the cops think covering up assholes who park in handicap spots is a good thing.

What would’ve topped off the video is if the cop had given tickets out for 1) littering, 2) impeded driving and 3) driving in unsafe conditions. Oh well, life can’t give us everything. Just the fact that he stood there taking photos was good enough.

Assholes aren’t a Protected Class

This was bound to happen sooner or later, huh? A guy goes into a bakery and asks for a cake. When he finds one he likes, he showed the bakery the words he wanted on there. Guess what kind of Christian message he wanted. Things like “God hates … (Fill in the blank with any gay slur). The baker offered to sell him the cake and the means to put those words on himself but didn’t want to write the words. So three guesses what comes next! Yup, he’s suing the bakery for discrimination. Last I looked, assholes weren’t a…

Continue reading